Life Without Facebook ~ A View From Gen Y #3


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It's 2004. You're a college freshman. You and your friends sign up for a new internet platform called Facebook. It becomes an interactive scrapbook of your life. 

Flash forward 7 years. You disengage from Facebook. Why??

This is a special Diva Marketing quasi social media reality series with Gen Y Jessica Robyn who takes us into her world of Life Without Facebook .. and offers her insights into the question Why?

Part #1 Part #2

Diva Marketing/Toby: Jessica, you disengaged from Facebook  on January 13th. It's been about 4 weeks without the Big F. What are you missing the most?

Jessica Robyn: I miss the entertainment I got from Facebook. Reading posts, seeing pictures, and playing games via Facebook. It was a great way to amuse myself when I had down time. Now I have a new obsession for crossword puzzles. I even found a trivia app on my phone to entertain me on the go.  At least my new obsessions are educational!

Diva Marketing/Toby:  How has life without Facebook influenced your relationship with people who you don’t usually keep in contact with on a consistent basis?

Jessica Robyn: It’s been interesting. I've reached out more to some college friends who I have not seen in a while. I actually found out that one of my old roommates, who lives in New York, was going to be in Rhode Island. I live in Massachusetts, so we ended up meeting for drinks in Providence which was pretty awesome.

  • We haven’t seen each other in two years, but we still had a connection without Facebook which was pretty impressive. 

Diva Marketing/Toby: What happens when those people who don’t have your eMail address or phone number need to get in touch with you?

Jessica Robyn: I perform at Rocky Horror Full Body Cast in Harvard Square. There was an occasion recently where someone from Rocky Horror had a few questions for me about something they were planning with the production.

I gave permission for people at the show to give her my cell number so she could contact me. But she never did. A couple of weeks later she told me she didn't like calling people on the phone and since she couldn’t find my Facebook she didn’t message me. I think if it was something of dire importance you could figure a way to contact me off of Facebook, even if you didn't have my contact information.

Diva Marketing/Toby: How about people you do keep in touch with on an ongoing basis. Tell us a story of how not having a Facebook page influenced you.

Jessica Robyn: Recently I had plans to go out with a friend; however, we just couldn’t agree on what to do for the evening so we ended up doing nothing. You know how that goes.

The next morning I started to miss Facebook. I am sure if I really wanted to go out I would have heard about a group of my friends going somewhere. Or I could have posted a status asking who was around and wanted to grab a drink. It didn’t really bother me about missing out on events until then. 

Diva Marketing/Toby: Wondering what are the reactions from people who you meet who don’t know you’re not on Facebook and want to friend you.

Jessica Robyn: I haven’t encountered that yet. But I did meet someone right before I disabled my facebook. He was shocked I was going to disable my page and told me that Facebook was his only form of communication with his friends (I later found out he didn’t have a text messaging plan and doesn’t use his phone much. "Big L"). Needless to say, we didn’t keep in touch after that. 

Diva Marketing/Toby: At this point are you glad you're off Facebook? Why?

Jessica Robyn:  At this moment I would say absoultely. I have found myself being more productive throughout the day. Also instead of spending mind numbing hours sitting on facebook, like I mentioned before, I have been spending time doing cross words and trivia games  ... working my mind which has been better than it turning to mush while mindlessly navigating around Facebook.

Diva Marketing/Toby: Anything that you're surprised about with life without Facebook?

Jessica Robyn: I think the most surprising element thus far has been all the exclusive deals or "you hear it first" type of deals that are promoted via Facebook. I heard of two different contests that in order to simply enter you needed to "like" their fan page, or a band releasing a song exclusively through Facebook. But for the most part, I haven't been too disappointed about my lack of Facebook yet.

- @JessicaRobyn  Jessica twitter

To Be Continued ..


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I thought it was really interesting that that girl wouldn't call you and decided not to reach out to you unless you were on Facebook. I think that while FB is connecting and engaging us virutally, it is creating an insecurity about actual interaction; even by phone. What do you think?

Posted by: Ashley@A10sm on Feb 9, 2012 5:00:09 PM

I found it really strange too. I think about how heavily my generation relies on not just Facebook, but the internet in general to communicate instead of calling or speaking with someone in person. I know for me it takes off the pressure of stumbling over my words, but I still have the skills of maintaining a conversation with someone over the phone.

Posted by: Jessica Robyn on Feb 13, 2012 10:11:07 PM

I'm happy that Facebook really took its toll and gave a new face to social networking. However, some of us don't know how to use it responsibly. I was reading the newspaper earlier this morning and I read about this 13 year old girl who's been missing since Saturday, only to find out that she went to her Facebook friends pad in another city. Now the police and the young girl's parents were talking about filing a case. Devastating.

Posted by: Digital Marketing Agency on Feb 21, 2012 9:21:24 AM

Very interesting post, scary to think how we rely on social networks when ever we are bored or need to kill time. Sadly we are not stimulating our brain at all from sitting on Facebook.With saying that i don't know what i would do with out it.

Posted by: Sarah on Mar 14, 2012 6:54:04 AM

Life without Facebook would be strange in 2013, probably even more so in 2014 although there are claims that Facebook is beginning to decline ever so slowly.

Either way, it'll be interesting to see.

Posted by: Marty on Dec 9, 2013 12:05:39 PM

It's 2015 and Facebook seems to be taking over people's lives. A lot of people on my Facebook timeline seem to have a running commentary on everything they do. It would be strange for a lot of folk if it were to suddenly dissapear.

Posted by: James on Jul 23, 2015 5:46:21 PM

I wonder what everyone would do if Facebook wasn't around. It seems everywhere I go (on the subway, train, restaurant or bar) everyone is on Facebook.

I was in a meeting the other day and my colleague was on Facebook. It's certainly getting it's grip on people. Last I heard they were getting 1bn visits per day.

Posted by: Brian Lonsdale on Sep 9, 2015 3:57:09 PM

Imagine how much free time we all would have had if there was no social media.

Posted by: Website Design Glasgow on Sep 7, 2016 10:50:39 AM

I would be out of a job haha!

Posted by: Michelle Murphy on Sep 29, 2016 10:10:24 AM

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