A Non-Valentine To Social Media


Dearest Social Media - 

Today I was going to ask you to Be My Valentine. I was going to send you virtual hearts and chocolates to let you know how much I care. Facebook valentine card

But now I'm not so sure. For you see I've found out that what you created is an illusion. You made us believe that we need you to connect with each others. Even to finding love.  

Oh sure .. The Suits are loosening their ties and opening their hearts beyond corporate talk. The playing field is leveled for small businesses and non profit organizations to tell their stories without huge budgets. Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, MySpace, LinkedIn and more offer ways for people to reach out to people to express opinions and passions. 

This morning, as I was about to create my ode to you social media, I received an eMail from my friend Kate with a link to a New York Times article about the Victorian Era. How quaint is that I thought. It was more than quaint .. it was a dose of reality from circa 19th century. In the age before a tweet people were using newspapers ads to find love. You created an illusion that if it weren't for you dear social media we would not find ... love, happiness, business, friendships or even our newest, favorite restaurant in town.

 We don't need you social media to send Valentines. We don't need you social media to connect to people. We don't need you social media to build relationships or sell our products or find new friends. We don't need you social media to find the humanity in humans. 

No we don't need you dear social media but ..

Dear social media I must admit you have given us new ways to build bridges that sometimes span oceans of geography and opinion. 

You have given us new opportunities to meet people who might have never come into our worlds. 

You have given us avenues to tell the stories of the people who are the heart of our organizations and those who use our products and services. 

Victorian Valentine_2  You have encouraged us to be more of who we are in our transactions with customers and that courage to be ourselves often spills into our relationships with family and friends.

Perhaps this Victorian Valentine is just the right way to say Will You Be Mine? While reminding us that what you offer complements what we already have. 


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you had me at, "...humans." Personally I'm looking for the new Social Media psychiatric pronouncement on the matter. Something like DOPE (Disorder of Personal Exclusion)or SMACK (social media alternate consciousness Kerplunk). One could go on. It will be interesting to see what compromises to humanity have been made when the dust settles.

Posted by: Rick on Feb 14, 2010 1:17:00 PM

@rick - thanks for continuing this slightly off the wall post. What a great new career .. social media psychiatrics!

Posted by: Toby on Feb 14, 2010 1:22:37 PM

My partner is a psychiatrist - they're working on it.

Posted by: Rick on Feb 14, 2010 1:26:59 PM

Very nice, Diva T! What a great way to bring the eternal quest together.


Posted by: kate spencer on Feb 14, 2010 6:40:23 PM

thanks for the inspiration diva k!

Posted by: Toby on Feb 14, 2010 9:19:15 PM

I love it! Thanks for the entertaining, yet insightful post

Posted by: Ellie Brown on Feb 15, 2010 8:33:57 PM

Thanks for this humorous, yet insightful post! Like you mentioned, there are many pros and cons of using social media--yet somehow we just can't picture life without it anymore.

Posted by: Rachel on Feb 23, 2010 11:14:24 AM

Social media has blinded us for quite a while now, leading us to believe that we are codependent, but really it is simply dependent upon us and we have been wooed by it.

Yes we really can survive without social media, but it certainly is fun to have around.

There is an interview series I would like to recommend to you of professional women in online journalism.
It was conducted by the University of Iowa Gender and Mass Media Class this past fall and offers some very unique perspectives and insight to the future of online journalism.

Posted by: Maguire on Feb 28, 2010 3:51:28 PM

Social media became a way to people for easy communication not just in a certain place but all over the world.Social media also plays a major role on internet marketing,advertsing and sales.

Posted by: surety bonds on Mar 5, 2010 7:39:19 PM

Social Media has a lot of great benefits to individual and businesses.Imagine reaching the whole world with one known social media site.Talking to your loved ones when their out of the country.It's unlimited and free.keeping in touch with your friends who's living far on your place.It's the relationship build and grown marketing online.

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The great aspect of social media is with proper attention, it significantly expands the entry points for your brand and business.

Posted by: rent guarantees on Oct 14, 2010 2:12:10 PM

That as a great idea to show appreciation to business industry. Knowing that social media influences many companies today.

Posted by: plumbing on May 30, 2011 1:40:05 PM

Well this post is over 2 1/2 years old, as I read it today, and we still don't need social media to send Valentines but it is getting harder and harder to avoid it.

Posted by: Byron on Nov 10, 2012 7:01:48 PM

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