Thank You Wayne Hurlbert

10/21/2013

Wayne hurlbertMy mind is still a jumble of thoughts. My heart wounded and broken. I've written this post a dozen times in my head but nothing seemed quite right.

So, I decided to go in a direction that he would have liked. To tell the story in a way that will help others understand what matters in this world we call social media. 

Last week when I was walking Max I popped into email and a message from Marianne Richmond almost caused me to drop my iphone (again!). The social web was a buzz with the passing of a dear and much admired gentle soul -- Wayne Hurlbert. Who was Wayne Hurlbert?

In my world ... Wayne and his mom were Max's orignial social fans. Wayne was one of my first BBFs (best blogging friend). I called Wayne (along with Paul Chaney) a true gentleman of the social web. 

Questions -- Can you call a person you never shared a meal, had coffee with or met face-to-face a "friend?" Perhaps there were phone calls, Skypes and emails. However, can you build a "real" relationship when a significant part of your exchanges are on the social web in blog comments, tweets, Facebook posts?

Many folks will remember Wayne for his innovative music tweets and and art posts.  Wayne Hurlbert_ Music Tweet

For me, Wayne and I shared another passion. We believed that blogs, and then social networks, could impact the way business could be conducted with honesty, openness, and transparency.

  • Did you notice those are the words (honesty, openness, transparency) used when describing the blogoshere? - Wayne Hurlbert

One of Wayne's core business beliefs was the importance of business ethics. Several times he graciously shared his views with me to include in Diva Marketing.

I had the honor of being Wayne's first guest on his acclaimed BlogTalkRadio show, Blog Business Success. It was Wayne who encouraged me to launch a BlogTalkRadio podcast. Wayne, along with Jeneane Sessum, were my first guests on Diva Talks with the show The Ethics of Social Media

  • Every action that you take and everything you do should be made with fair treatment helping others in mind. - Wayne Hurlbert

Wayne also kindly contributed his thoughts about ethics to Social Media GPS an eBook I wrote based on 40 Twitter interviews. In Chapter Four, Social Ethics, Wayne and Mack Collier answered this question: Ethics in business is the hot news topic. In SM we struggle with what is black, white and gray. Why is that? 

  • SM is about trust&trust must be earned. Once lost trust is hard to recover. In SM there is no second chance to recover it. - Wayne Hurlbert
  • Using tricks & tools to get more SM followes may add numbers but without engagment&trust, raw numbers mean nothing - Wayne Hurlbert

Ironically, the last question I asked Wayne on our BlogTalkRadio show was -- What do you want people to say about you after you write your last post or your last tweet? 

  • That I helped people as I set out to do when I orignally started my post. - Wayne Hurlbert

His response underscores what his friends know to be true. Thank you Wayne for the help you selfishly gave keeping true to your philosophy of putting others first.

And I suppose that brings us full circle to the question can you create "real" relationships in social media? The relationship I shared with Wayne touched my  heart and added value to my life. It doesn't get much more real than that girlfriend.

Note: 10/24 8p Eastern BlogTalkRadio will host a tribute to Wayne. 

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Thanks for dropping by my blog and nice to meet another one of Wayne's friends. He is missed.

Posted by: Blog Bloke on Oct 21, 2013 9:19:45 AM

What a lovely post and a great tribute to Wayne.

Posted by: Average Jane on Oct 21, 2013 10:17:04 AM

He touched so many lives in such a helpful and decent manner....I am sure your post would have touched him deeply.

Posted by: Marianne Richmond on Oct 21, 2013 10:29:47 AM

Toby
This made me cry. You're a beautiful writer and Wayne was so incredible. I will really miss his humor and kindness.

Posted by: nettie reynolds on Oct 21, 2013 12:04:21 PM

Toby, what a moving tribute to Wayne. We will never forget the impact this quiet, unassuming man had, not only on our profession, but our lives as well.

Posted by: Paul Chaney on Oct 21, 2013 2:35:47 PM

Toby,
Thank you for your beautiful tribute. Your words prove friendship transcends any boundaries we may have previously known, but includes what has always been most important - honesty, encouragement, trust, touching our hearts and adding value to our lives.
Thanks,
Sue

Posted by: Sue Ryan on Oct 21, 2013 8:55:28 PM

What a touching and sweet tribute. You are such a wonderful friend Toby!

Posted by: Caroline K. on Oct 23, 2013 11:13:36 AM

@Caroline K - thanks for kind words

Posted by: Toby @tobydiva on Oct 23, 2013 9:11:41 PM

Beautifully and lovingly written, Toby. Thank you for sharing this wonderful tribute to this man who was well-loved by so many.

Posted by: Sybil Stershic on Oct 25, 2013 3:08:26 PM

Nice tribute... His works and contributions will always be remembered, business ethics etc... Thanks

Posted by: Gina Morgan on Jan 9, 2014 9:17:50 PM

This tribute is so nice! Thank you for sharing this. I did not know much about him until now, what a good man!

Posted by: Institute for Internet Safety on Feb 7, 2014 8:38:19 PM

His decency and courtesy shone through and you have paid due tribute to that with his moving post, Toby.

Posted by: Des Walsh on Mar 23, 2014 8:22:57 PM

thanks for your words Des .. Wayne was a very special person.

Posted by: Toby @tobydiva on Mar 23, 2014 9:16:45 PM

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